4 Things to Cultivate to Stand Out from 99 % of People

1. Don’t Be a Follower

I know not everyone is a contrarian like me, and honestly, sometimes I wish I could just go along with the status quo. It would be easier. But that’s not how God wired me. I question everything. I want to know why something makes sense and, more importantly, why it makes sense for me.

My kids often get frustrated with me because they’ll tell me, So-and-so’s parents let them do this! And my response is always the same: That’s their business. What does that have to do with you and our household?

Just because everyone else is doing something doesn’t mean it’s right for you. God created us uniquely, with different callings and different paths to walk. Be original. Be authentic.

Romans 12:2 says, “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing, and perfect will.”

Following the crowd often won’t lead you to your purpose. Seek God’s direction for your life, and don’t be afraid to go against the grain when necessary.

2. Be Genuinely Happy for Others' Success

A lot of people pretend to be happy for others, but let’s be real, you can tell when it’s fake. It’s not that they don’t want others to succeed, but if they’re struggling in their own lives, it can be hard to celebrate someone else’s win.

But when God blesses someone else, it’s proof that He’s still in the blessing business. Their success doesn’t take away from yours. In fact, it should give you hope!

As Christians, we should always be able to rejoice with others. Their victories reflect God’s goodness. Don’t let jealousy or comparison steal your joy. If He did it for them, He can do it for you.

Romans 12:15 says, “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.”

And let’s talk about when you don’t think someone deserves their success. That’s even harder, right? But the truth is, we all need God’s mercy. Who are we to question whom He chooses to bless?

Matthew 5:45 reminds us, “He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous.”

Instead of letting bitterness take root, shift your focus. Celebrate others, trust God’s timing for your own life, and remember your turn is coming.

3. Don’t Be Afraid to Stand Alone

This one is tough. God created us for community, and no one wants to feel isolated. We all want to belong. But if fitting in means compromising your values, it’s not worth it.

There will be times when doing the right thing makes you unpopular. Standing for truth might cost you friendships, opportunities, or even respect in certain circles. But at the end of the day, your integrity matters more than approval.

Joshua 1:9 says, “Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

When you passionately believe in something, stand firm. Don’t waver because of fear. God honors those who remain faithful, even when it’s hard.

Galatians 1:10 challenges us with this: “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”

You don’t need a crowd to validate your convictions. You just need to be obedient to what God has called you to do.

4. Read Widely

Reading has become a lost art. Unless it’s for school or work, most people don’t pick up a book anymore. We live in a fast-paced, information-overloaded world, yet we rarely slow down to truly learn.

But reading is essential, not just for knowledge, but for wisdom. Proverbs 4:7 says, “The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.”

Expose yourself to different perspectives. Study history. Read books that challenge your thinking, deepen your faith, and equip you with practical skills. The more you read, the more you grow.

And let’s be honest, our culture thrives on surface-level, short-form content. But depth requires effort. Be someone who seeks real knowledge, not just bite-sized opinions and viral trends.

Proverbs 18:15 says, “The heart of the discerning acquires knowledge, for the ears of the wise seek it out.”

So, pick up a book. Stretch your mind. Keep learning.

If you want to stand out from the crowd:

• Be intentional.

• Don’t follow blindly. Think for yourself.

• Celebrate others, even when it’s hard.

• Stand firm in your convictions, even when it costs you.

• And never stop learning.

The world has enough people blending in. Be different. Be faithful. Be who God created you to be.

What about you? Which of these do you struggle with the most? Let’s talk about it in the comments!